The Quiet Cup: My Husband is a Gift
Happy November, friends! For the rest of this month, The Quiet Cup will be reflections on things I’m thankful for. Hope you’re encouraged and reminded to thank the Lord for all His wonderful blessings in your life!
My Husband is a Gift
It’s easy to focus on the undone things: what’s left on the to-do list, the dishes in the sink, the words that I should’ve said more kindly. It’s easy to forget, in the thick of child-rearing and chore-managing and meal-making and holiday-planning, that the man beside me is not just a partner in the work but a gift from the Lord Himself.
Proverbs 18:22 says, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord."
While that verse is meant to encourage men in their search for a godly wife, today it reminds me that marriage itself is a picture of God’s favor. And that if it’s true for the husband who finds a wife, it’s true in the reverse, too. I didn’t just “end up” with my husband. I was entrusted with him.
When I stop and really look at him, not through the lens of frivolous frustrations or unvoiced and therefore unmet expectations, but through the eyes of grace, I see it. The kindness in his tone when I’m tired. The playful patience with our toddler. The long hours he works without complaint. The way he folds me into a hug after we argue. The way he still reaches for my hand, still wants my laughter, still prays with and for me.
No, he’s not perfect. And neither am I. And that’s the beauty of marriage as sanctification: two imperfect people, walking with a perfect Savior.
I listened to a podcast episode from Life to the Full with Nancy Campbell and it gave me the reminder I needed to see my husband and marriage more properly, especially in the midst of the holiday bustle. Nancy Campbell hosted a guest named Becca Groves, who runs a homesteading ministry called Gather & Grow with her husband. Becca recounts a moment with her husband that reminded her to cherish him as a gift above all gifts. (I’ll try to retell it here, but you should definitely listen to the episode!)
Becca and her husband were on their way to a babymoon trip while she was pregnant with her fifth child. They were stuck behind a slow truck on a two-lane highway, with another SUV in front of them and a motorcycle behind them. She had a strange moment while driving where she looked intently at both vehicles. The SUV was sleek and black, with a matching pontoon hooked to the back. The wife was in the front seat, wearing Ray-Ban sunglasses and resting her feet on the dash. As she looked at the woman in the SUV, she thought, “If I had married that man…I’d be a river rat, packing sandwiches for a day on the water every weekend.”
Behind them was a couple on a motorcycle, wearing helmets and headsets. They chatted and laughed and swayed from one side to the other as they zoomed down the road. As she looked at the motorcycle, she thought, “If I had married that man…I’d have to buy leather pants or something and map out new adventures for us to take.”
Then she looked at her own husband, driving their worn down minivan that smells like goldfish crackers and is loaded with car seats. And she thought, “But I married this man…this is the one that God gave to me. And because I married him, now I’m milking a goat!”
She went on to explain how her life has changed since marrying her husband - how they now run a homestead and have lots of children and how her life is totally different from what she imagined it would be. All because of this one man, gifted to her by God - now one flesh with her.
She then says that she thinks a lot of women fight the oneness of marriage, and I agree because I’ve experienced it myself. It’s easy for me to think I know better, to think that my husband should conform to my expectations, whether spoken or unspoken, to want to mold him into what I think my “perfect” husband should be, without any regard for the perfection in God’s Hand to bring us together in the first place, differences and all.
To this attitude, Becca says, “What I saw in that moment so crystal clear is that, no, that’s the man that God entrusted you with. And it’s not gonna look like any other marriage.”
She goes on to say that trusting your husband’s vision for your family, trusting and praying that he has gone to the Lord for wisdom and guidance for how to lead and love your family well, is the best way you can love and support him. It’s how you walk out becoming “one flesh.” My dreams and expectations for our lives and future conform to his, because I trust and pray that his dreams and expectations are conforming to God’s.
So today, I want to slow down enough to cherish my husband as the gift he is; not just as the spiritual head and co-laborer, but as a grace-given blessing. A reminder that God saw fit to give me a friend, a covering, a vision-caster for the journey. I want to speak words that build him up. I want to serve him not out of obligation, but out of joy. I want to thank God out loud, in prayer and in front of our daughter, for the man who leads our home.
Because behind every ordinary day is an extraordinary gift: a marriage designed by God, made holy by Christ, and sustained by grace. This is your quiet cup, fellow wives - sip slowly and show your husband just how much you cherish him today.
“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow… And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him - a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”
— Ecclesiastes 4:9–12 (ESV)
What Is The Quiet Cup?
The Quiet Cup is a gentle weekend reflection series from yours truly at The Faithful Little Pantry, offering encouragement for mothers, wives, and homemakers as they head into the busy days ahead.
As a wife and mother myself, weekends often seem busier than the weekdays in our home and it’s easy to get lost in the chaos. I want to end my week with an intentional pause, with a quiet cup if you will, before I head into the craziness. Rooted in themes of stewardship, faithfulness, and intentional living, each post is meant to serve as a small but meaningful pause. A quiet moment to refocus the heart, remember your calling, and rest in God’s grace.
So grab a cup of something comforting, find a brief, quiet moment, and be encouraged by The Quiet Cup.
